Why You Need to Start NoFap Now (Stop Masturbating Your Life Away!)
What is NoFap?
NoFap is the act of not masturbating, and not watching porn. Porn and masturbation usually go hand-in-hand (no pun intended). NoFap can also be referred to as no PMO (Porn, Masturbation, Orgasm).
Because No Nut November is coming.
OK jokes aside, it makes you feel like shit. Alright let’s be real, you are probably here because you are depressed, lonely, unable to get a girlfriend and so on. You hate your life and feel like a loser. You look in the mirror and you hate what you see. You hate that messy and unkempt hair, and that skinny fat body.
You have no dreams and goals, and just live day-to-day, doing the bare minimum to pass time and go through the motions of life. And when the night comes, you beat your meat, and feel good for that 10 seconds. And then, you feel like shit, even worse than before.
Some use PMO for pleasure and instant gratification, while others use it as a way to relieve stress.
Whenever things don't go your way, you seek to porn and masturbation as a form of escapism to deal with your problems instead of facing it head on and getting to the root of the issue.
Masturbation makes you too relaxed. It takes off the competitive edge of you against other men. When you watch porn and masturbate, you are sending a message to your brain that everything is "okay". You are tricking your brain into thinking that you are good enough to have sex with multiple attractive women.
This is the reason why when you fap, you become generally unmotivated to do something with your life. I'm talking about challenges, sports, women, working towards a goal, all the good stuff a person should be able to enjoy.
When you deny yourself the instant gratification of PMO, your mind has to constantly find other ways to get you this feeling. After about 10 days of not ejaculating, you start to enjoy working on a project. This could be your career, body or whatever other goals you have.
I'm not saying that going NoFap is going to magically change your life. But it is the key driving force that makes you want to start incorporating good habits to change your life.
I know. I was once like you, beating off my meat and busting my nuts to the screen. And what’s on my screen? I'm sure I don’t need to elaborate as you guys probably already know and are experts on it.
Just like most guys, I do it about 3 times a week, hiding in the toilet, locking the door, with my 2 best buddies, the toilet paper, and the left hand, hoping no one would bother or disturb me. It was my “alone” time, where all my worries and stress will disappear temporarily.
It took me until I was 25 years old to realise the unhappiness, general anxiety, no girlfriend, little friends, and having the feeling of not having achieved anything of importance in my life to wake up from it.
I always felt that the reason for my lack of motivation for life in the past and sitting in front of the computer being addicted to computer games (MapleStory, DotA, LoL) was due to a deeper psychological issue. Having trouble with school, social, relationship, and anxiety was due PMO.
Whenever shit got real and I have to get up and get out there, I'd rather rub one out. This gave me instant gratification, something I couldn't find in the world out there.
And of course, after doing it, I felt like shit. Sure the build-up to it was exciting and the 5 seconds of pleasure that accompanied it during the release. However, after all is over, I felt even more depressed and low.
I felt like I lost all drive and motivation in life, and was directionless. It was a downward spiral. I first learned about NoFap many years ago. But I struggled to stop. I would go 5 days, before I couldn’t take it anymore and relapsed. It was a never-ending cycle.
Until one day, I went for a good 5 months with only 2-3 relapses in between. Check out my 64 days experience of NoFap Hard Mode (Semen Retention) here.
Changes That Occur
During this time, I still wasn't the most productive person. However, it takes time. Just like how Rome wasn't build in a day, you can't expect yourself to be up there without putting in the work consistently.
When you reach 7 days, you start feeling amazing, energised, and horny. Being horny is a good thing, if you channel that sexual energy into improving your life. Start to dissociate the feeling of horniness with the need to masturbate.
As I could no longer masturbate to a screen, I had to find it via a real woman if I wanted a release. This naturally motivated me to start working out after I gained a ton of fat in my stomach region and became skinny-fat post-ED recovery.
I also started improving on my looks, wearing contact lens, getting a decent haircut that suits me, and shopped for better clothes to improve my fashion. It was a good start. That was also the period when I downloaded online dating apps and went on to meet 20 girls in a span of 5 months.
I was very socially anxious at first, always overthinking. But somehow when I am on NoFap, my confidence level increases and I become more calm and chill. Along with dating practise and experience, my social anxiety levels massively reduced around people.
A young man like you should be active and aggressive out in the world. A lot of young men today are passive and anxious which I truly believe a root cause of it is due to PMO. I know for a fact that whenever I am on a long streak of NoFap, I start to feel more drive, confident, calm, and overall less general anxiety.
You should have a lot of pent up and aggressive energy. That's because you are meant to grow. To expand. To create. To approach women. To approach LIFE. Not to be safe and stay stuck in your own comfort zone.
Have self-discipline, because no one else will do it for you and the power is in your hands (Pun intended).
If I could travel back in time, I would tell my younger self one thing: retain. Retain your vital energy and transmute that horny sexual energy into improving your life. The best time to start would be then. But the second best time to start is now.
Your semen is your LIFE FORCE and it is POWERFUL enough to create a human.
Don't waste it on a screen.
What is the main reason why you want to quit PMO?